It seems possible at this point that some of our disagreement may stem from a difference in word usage.
When I say “goodwill” (or, more accurately, when I read “goodwill” in the context of Rob Bensinger’s original post), what I take it to mean is something along the lines of “being (at least in the context of this conversation, and possibly also in the broader context of participation on LW as a whole) interested in figuring out true things, and having that as a primary motivator during discussions”.
The alternative to this (which your use of “hostility” appears to qualify for as a special case) is any situation in which that is not the case, i.e. someone is participating in the discussion with some other aim than arriving at truth. Possible alternative motivations here are too numerous to list comprehensively, but (broadly speaking) include classes such as: wanting confirmation for their existing beliefs, wanting to assert the status of some individual or group, wanting to lower the status of some individual or group, etc.
(That last case seems possibly to map to your use of “hostility”, where specifically the individual or group in question includes one of the discussion’s participants.)
This being the case, my response to what you say in your comment, e.g. here
We started at “some people perceive disagreements as hostility”. This is true, some (indeed, many) people do this. The solution to this problem on an individual level is “don’t do that”. The solution to this problem on a social level is “have norms that firmly oppose doing that”.
and here
Yes, I agree. The solution to this is… as I said above. Stop perceiving disagreement as hostility; discourage others from doing so.
is essentially that I agree, but that I don’t see how (on your view) Rob’s proposed norm of “assuming goodwill” isn’t essentially a restatement of your “don’t perceive disagreements as hostility”. (Perhaps you think the former generalizes too much compared to the latter, and take issue with some of the edge cases?)
In any case, I think it’d be beneficial to know where and how exactly your usage/perception of these terms differ, and how those differences concretely lead to our disagreement about Rob’s proposed norm.
It seems possible at this point that some of our disagreement may stem from a difference in word usage.
When I say “goodwill” (or, more accurately, when I read “goodwill” in the context of Rob Bensinger’s original post), what I take it to mean is something along the lines of “being (at least in the context of this conversation, and possibly also in the broader context of participation on LW as a whole) interested in figuring out true things, and having that as a primary motivator during discussions”.
The alternative to this (which your use of “hostility” appears to qualify for as a special case) is any situation in which that is not the case, i.e. someone is participating in the discussion with some other aim than arriving at truth. Possible alternative motivations here are too numerous to list comprehensively, but (broadly speaking) include classes such as: wanting confirmation for their existing beliefs, wanting to assert the status of some individual or group, wanting to lower the status of some individual or group, etc.
(That last case seems possibly to map to your use of “hostility”, where specifically the individual or group in question includes one of the discussion’s participants.)
This being the case, my response to what you say in your comment, e.g. here
and here
is essentially that I agree, but that I don’t see how (on your view) Rob’s proposed norm of “assuming goodwill” isn’t essentially a restatement of your “don’t perceive disagreements as hostility”. (Perhaps you think the former generalizes too much compared to the latter, and take issue with some of the edge cases?)
In any case, I think it’d be beneficial to know where and how exactly your usage/perception of these terms differ, and how those differences concretely lead to our disagreement about Rob’s proposed norm.