I guess I meant “as it applies here, specifically”, given that Zack was already criticizing himself for that specific thing, and arguing for rather than against politeness norms in the specific place that I commented. I’m aware that you guys haven’t been getting along too well and wouldn’t expect agreement more generally, though I hadn’t been following closely.
It looks like you put some work and emotional energy into this comment so I don’t want to just not respond, but it also seems like this whole thing is upsetting enough that you don’t really want to be having these discussions. I’m going to err on the side of not getting into any object level response that you might not want, but if you want to know how to get along with Zach and not find it infuriating I think I do understand his perspective (having found myself in similar shoes) well enough to explain how you can do it.
I guess I meant “as it applies here, specifically”, given that Zack was already criticizing himself for that specific thing, and arguing for rather than against politeness norms in the specific place that I commented. I’m aware that you guys haven’t been getting along too well and wouldn’t expect agreement more generally, though I hadn’t been following closely.
It looks like you put some work and emotional energy into this comment so I don’t want to just not respond, but it also seems like this whole thing is upsetting enough that you don’t really want to be having these discussions. I’m going to err on the side of not getting into any object level response that you might not want, but if you want to know how to get along with Zach and not find it infuriating I think I do understand his perspective (having found myself in similar shoes) well enough to explain how you can do it.