I have no idea what to do with “If you are the sort of person who is always upbeat and positive, try to signal this through your expression, posture, and clothes.”
That’s fair. When I think of upbeat expression, posture, and clothes, I think of things like:
Wacky expressions
Silly costumes, often with friends
Huge grins
Arms and legs out, taking up lots of space
My hunch says that signaling that you host social gatherings / plan parties is not much more beneficial than signaling that you attend them. If there is literature that suggests otherwise, I’m very interested in hearing about how and why.
My intuition is just that you need more social capital to host a party of N people than to attend a party of N people. It’s easier to get an invite to a party than it is to convince people to attend your party, and also you only need to know one person to get a party invite whereas you need to (perhaps indirectly) know N people to organize a party of N people.
I’d guess that tact (or perhaps whatever the opposite of desperation is? confidence? nonchalance? ) probably also has an effect on female evaluations of male profiles—perhaps this is through a perceived difference in social ability?
I agree that tact is a key difficulty. I warned against including shirtless pictures largely for this reason; I think it’s a fair point that wealth and social capital can also be displayed in a tactless way.
Thanks!
That’s fair. When I think of upbeat expression, posture, and clothes, I think of things like:
Wacky expressions
Silly costumes, often with friends
Huge grins
Arms and legs out, taking up lots of space
My intuition is just that you need more social capital to host a party of N people than to attend a party of N people. It’s easier to get an invite to a party than it is to convince people to attend your party, and also you only need to know one person to get a party invite whereas you need to (perhaps indirectly) know N people to organize a party of N people.
I agree that tact is a key difficulty. I warned against including shirtless pictures largely for this reason; I think it’s a fair point that wealth and social capital can also be displayed in a tactless way.