What do you think about the claim that everybody is setting everybody up for disappointment by all of this optimization? Not only in the profile but also in the dating process. Over time, the effort is inevitably lowered, leading to claims from both sides that they were cheated. Or does everybody price that in with growing experience? What do you think about this dynamic?
“Everybody” is a very strong claim, since there needs to only be one person who didn’t find it disappointing for the claim to be false. I am that person. I started off barely getting any matches, but after putting in effort in my photography, style, conversation and flirting I now have a happy casual dating lifestyle. I recommend other people to do the same.
Well, it is not the “every element of the set” everybody.
Thank you for your feedback.
I agree that dating is a skill that improves with practice either way.
casual dating lifestyle
That sounds like it is more a lifestyle than a way to find a partner once, like a mutually shared understanding that dating is a domain like the job or vacation where one behaves differently.
I actually don’t think these things are that unsustainable. Even if you don’t know anything about fashion now, if you spend a couple hours watching YouTube videos to learn what makes clothes fit well, I genuinely think you could spend the rest of your life only buying shirts where the shoulder seam is at your shoulder etc.
I agree though that portraying yourself as a vastly different person than you actually are is dangerous.
What do you think about the claim that everybody is setting everybody up for disappointment by all of this optimization? Not only in the profile but also in the dating process. Over time, the effort is inevitably lowered, leading to claims from both sides that they were cheated. Or does everybody price that in with growing experience? What do you think about this dynamic?
“Everybody” is a very strong claim, since there needs to only be one person who didn’t find it disappointing for the claim to be false. I am that person. I started off barely getting any matches, but after putting in effort in my photography, style, conversation and flirting I now have a happy casual dating lifestyle. I recommend other people to do the same.
Well, it is not the “every element of the set” everybody.
Thank you for your feedback.
I agree that dating is a skill that improves with practice either way.
That sounds like it is more a lifestyle than a way to find a partner once, like a mutually shared understanding that dating is a domain like the job or vacation where one behaves differently.
I actually don’t think these things are that unsustainable. Even if you don’t know anything about fashion now, if you spend a couple hours watching YouTube videos to learn what makes clothes fit well, I genuinely think you could spend the rest of your life only buying shirts where the shoulder seam is at your shoulder etc.
I agree though that portraying yourself as a vastly different person than you actually are is dangerous.