Maybe this is somehow related to the “openness to experience” (and/or autism). If you are willing to interact with weird people, you can learn many interesting things most people will never hear about. But you are also more likely to get hurt in a weird way, which is probably the reason most people stay away from weird people.
And as a consequence, you develop some defenses, such as allowing interaction only to some specific degree, and no further. Instead of filtering for safe people, you filter for safe circumstances. Which protects you, but also prevents you from from possible gains, because in reality, some people are more trustworthy than others, and it correlates negatively with some types of weirdness.
Like, instead of “I would probably be okay inviting X and Y to my home, but I have a bad feeling about inviting Z to my home”, you are likely to have a rule “meeting people in cafeteria is okay, inviting them home is taboo”. Similarly, “explaining concepts to someone is okay, investing money together is not”.
So on one hand you are willing to tell a complete stranger in cafeteria the story of your religious deconversion and your opinion on Boltzmann brains (which would be shocking for average people); but you will probably never spend a vacation together with people who are closest to you in intellect and values (which average people do all the time).
I think I get what you mean.
Maybe this is somehow related to the “openness to experience” (and/or autism). If you are willing to interact with weird people, you can learn many interesting things most people will never hear about. But you are also more likely to get hurt in a weird way, which is probably the reason most people stay away from weird people.
And as a consequence, you develop some defenses, such as allowing interaction only to some specific degree, and no further. Instead of filtering for safe people, you filter for safe circumstances. Which protects you, but also prevents you from from possible gains, because in reality, some people are more trustworthy than others, and it correlates negatively with some types of weirdness.
Like, instead of “I would probably be okay inviting X and Y to my home, but I have a bad feeling about inviting Z to my home”, you are likely to have a rule “meeting people in cafeteria is okay, inviting them home is taboo”. Similarly, “explaining concepts to someone is okay, investing money together is not”.
So on one hand you are willing to tell a complete stranger in cafeteria the story of your religious deconversion and your opinion on Boltzmann brains (which would be shocking for average people); but you will probably never spend a vacation together with people who are closest to you in intellect and values (which average people do all the time).
Yes, I think that’s roughly where I’m pointing.