I do think there is some good urgent real thinking going on, that some people are a good fit for it, and can make a reasonable choice to do less serious play.
Definitely. A second-order hope I have is to make more space available for people to be more head-down intense about urgent thinking. The idea being:
Alice wants to be heads-down intense about urgent thinking. She does so. Then Bob sees Alice, and feels pressured to also be intense in that way. When Bob tries to be intense in that way, he throws away his mind, and that’s not good for him. He doesn’t fully understand what’s going wrong, but he knows that what’s going wrong has something to do with him being pressured to be intense. He correctly identifies that the pressure is partly caused by Alice (whether or not it’s Alice who really ought to change her behavior). Not understanding the situation in detail, Bob only has blunt actions available; and not having an explicit justification for pushing back against some pressure he feels, he doesn’t push back explicitly, out in the open, but instead puts some of his force toward implicitly pressuring Alice to not be so intense.
If Bob were more able to defend important things from implicit pressure that he feels, he’s less pushed to pressure Alice to not be intense. And so Alice is more freed to be intense, as is suitable for her.
(This is fairly theoretical, but would explain some of my experiences.)
Good to hear.
Definitely. A second-order hope I have is to make more space available for people to be more head-down intense about urgent thinking. The idea being:
Alice wants to be heads-down intense about urgent thinking. She does so. Then Bob sees Alice, and feels pressured to also be intense in that way. When Bob tries to be intense in that way, he throws away his mind, and that’s not good for him. He doesn’t fully understand what’s going wrong, but he knows that what’s going wrong has something to do with him being pressured to be intense. He correctly identifies that the pressure is partly caused by Alice (whether or not it’s Alice who really ought to change her behavior). Not understanding the situation in detail, Bob only has blunt actions available; and not having an explicit justification for pushing back against some pressure he feels, he doesn’t push back explicitly, out in the open, but instead puts some of his force toward implicitly pressuring Alice to not be so intense.
If Bob were more able to defend important things from implicit pressure that he feels, he’s less pushed to pressure Alice to not be intense. And so Alice is more freed to be intense, as is suitable for her.
(This is fairly theoretical, but would explain some of my experiences.)