Okay. You can’t name any problem that would be solved by a reply.
a. no.
b. nope.
I said what the problem was.
The unsolved problem being the feeling.
Just cause you want to go staw vulcan on me in your map doesn’t change my territory.
Your emotions are not a problem relevant to the person you’re writing to unless that person knows you extremely well and has some specific reason to be concerned about your emotions, e.g. - your mother or your spouse.
I should do nothing that you say when you offer bad advice. If invalidating my emotions is your advice I would discount a lot of whatever else you have to say.
My advice is that your emotions are not infallible oracles. Rather, they reflect your values, so if your values are bad then your emotions will mislead you.
In this particular case, you want somebody to take the time to write to you. They didn’t. That means the person in question saw no value in writing to you. What value is this person going to see in a message about your emotions? I don’t know the answer to that question, but if you write without considering it you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.
Also, if you don’t explain what value you offer that is worth replying to, then you are not considering the values and emotions of your correspondent.
In this particular case, you want somebody to take the time to write to you. They didn’t. That means the person in question saw no value in writing to you.
This model of ignoring emotions and focusing on the value is missing information that can explain what is going on. It’s less useful than having the model with the emotions. The proof? I got a reply within 5 minutes.
Your emotions are not… relevant to the person you’re writing to…
if you don’t explain what value you offer
Your emotions are not a problem relevant to the person you’re writing to unless that person knows you extremely well and has some specific reason to be concerned about your emotions, e.g. - your mother or your spouse.
My advice is that your emotions are not infallible oracles. Rather, they reflect your values, so if your values are bad then your emotions will mislead you.
In this particular case, you want somebody to take the time to write to you. They didn’t. That means the person in question saw no value in writing to you. What value is this person going to see in a message about your emotions? I don’t know the answer to that question, but if you write without considering it you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.
Also, if you don’t explain what value you offer that is worth replying to, then you are not considering the values and emotions of your correspondent.
This model of ignoring emotions and focusing on the value is missing information that can explain what is going on. It’s less useful than having the model with the emotions. The proof? I got a reply within 5 minutes.
it was an existing relationship yes.