But how did she take it / how did she respond? Provide us evidence in favor of your approach. :-)
(FWIW, I tend to have similar kinds of thoughts when people communicate with me less than I’d like—less than I’d communicate in their place—and I think an important insight is that not everybody has those thoughts. In my case, I think there’s a convincing case that I have an anxious attachment style, and it helps me to reflect on the fact that there’s a lot more happening in my head than happening in reality, in these cases.)
She replied right away actually and we had a conversation about it. I expect if I sent the other message, (“you never respect me”) I wouldn’t have gotten a reply and I would have only been more frustrated.
I think an important insight is that not everybody has those thoughts
Actually I think everyone has these thoughts but in different ways and about different potential triggers of offence.
But how did she take it / how did she respond? Provide us evidence in favor of your approach. :-)
(FWIW, I tend to have similar kinds of thoughts when people communicate with me less than I’d like—less than I’d communicate in their place—and I think an important insight is that not everybody has those thoughts. In my case, I think there’s a convincing case that I have an anxious attachment style, and it helps me to reflect on the fact that there’s a lot more happening in my head than happening in reality, in these cases.)
She replied right away actually and we had a conversation about it. I expect if I sent the other message, (“you never respect me”) I wouldn’t have gotten a reply and I would have only been more frustrated.
Actually I think everyone has these thoughts but in different ways and about different potential triggers of offence.