A quick point on 3, it seems like a general rule of learning can handle this fairly well. More specifically the idea of using your conscious mind to direct your attention to conscious practice of one thing at a time. It would be much more trying to remember 3 things to do than one. If a person can remember just one, then they can practice that item deliberately until it becomes more unconscious. There’s always room to improve, but at some point it becomes more natural to do X than to not do X, and that leaves you free to focus on incorporating Y. Advice to “remember to do X, Y, and Z” might be better interpreted as “ultimately you’ll want to be doing X, Y, and Z.”
Not to say it’s not difficult to remember to practice things once I actually get into social skills. I usually forget to practice anything at all, but when I do remember to practice I usually learn something (I should consider making at a habit to ask myself if there’s anything I want to practice as I go into a social situation). Practicing with assistance is great as people can point things out and be sure to remind you, but “going solo” can also be very productive.
A quick point on 3, it seems like a general rule of learning can handle this fairly well. More specifically the idea of using your conscious mind to direct your attention to conscious practice of one thing at a time. It would be much more trying to remember 3 things to do than one. If a person can remember just one, then they can practice that item deliberately until it becomes more unconscious. There’s always room to improve, but at some point it becomes more natural to do X than to not do X, and that leaves you free to focus on incorporating Y. Advice to “remember to do X, Y, and Z” might be better interpreted as “ultimately you’ll want to be doing X, Y, and Z.”
Not to say it’s not difficult to remember to practice things once I actually get into social skills. I usually forget to practice anything at all, but when I do remember to practice I usually learn something (I should consider making at a habit to ask myself if there’s anything I want to practice as I go into a social situation). Practicing with assistance is great as people can point things out and be sure to remind you, but “going solo” can also be very productive.