Why do you favor the hypothesis that it’s only women who are over-selective?
There is some more research on the subject that I need to write up, but you can start with the OkCupid analysis for now.
Look at the boxes showing the reply rates by race. They have row and column weighted averages, and at the bottom right there seems to be the total weighted average response rate. Men get responses to 27.6% of their messages. Women get responses to 42% of their messages.
On OkCupid, women are more selective in who they respond to. How much does this generalize to more general male-female interaction? That’s uncertain, but it show lead us to raise our probability for the hypothesis that women are more selective in general.
I’ve seen the OkTrends results before, but I’m really not comfortable making any general inferences from them. Are there even roughly equal numbers of men and women on OkCupid? Is that information available anywhere?
There is some more research on the subject that I need to write up
Are there even roughly equal numbers of men and women on OkCupid?
That would be highly unlikely.
Is that information available anywhere?
It isn’t the sort of thing that I would expect a dating site to advertise. “10:1 ratio of guys to girls” (for example) isn’t the kind of message that is well calibrated to attract participants of either sex.
I have seen research done into sex ratios for online dating sites in general, not limited to OkCupid and the balance is far from even.
That’s what I would guess also, and it would certainly go a long way toward explaining why women on OkCupid appear to be so much more selective: 1) They can afford to be and 2) Their inboxes are too full to respond to a large fraction of their messages even if they wanted to.
That’s true. If OkCupid has a high male:female ratio, then it does make those numbers seem like weaker evidence of general female selectivity. But I would like to make a point:
Why are there more men on online dating websites? Could it be because they are less likely to have adequate options in real life because, perhaps… women in real life are more selective?
EDIT: Whoa! Actually, OkCupid published their stats, and they have a nearly 1:1 gender ratio. It really depends on age group there are more 18 year-old women than men by 3:2, and more mid-twenties men by about 6:7. But it’s mostly pretty damn close. So I’m going to maintain my hypothesis of greater female selectivity.
Whoa! Actually, OkCupid published their stats, and they have a nearly 1:1 gender ratio.
I thought that initially as well when I saw that post but if you look at the subheading of the graph ‘Distribution of Singles on OkCupid, By Age’ it says ‘in our sample pool of 100,000 of each’ so it is not clear to me that they actually have a 1:1 gender ratio. Presumably the sample pools were chosen to be reflective of actual age distributions within genders but it doesn’t necessarily follow that the overall gender ratios are 1:1.
That’s what I would guess also, and it would certainly go a long way toward explaining why women on OkCupid appear to be so much more selective:
That’s what I had been lead to expect, so my own anecdotal experience surprised me. The majority of my interactions on OkCupid, including those that have lead on to dating and relationships, have been initiated by the women in question. But I’m not complaining! ;)
There is some more research on the subject that I need to write up, but you can start with the OkCupid analysis for now.
Look at the boxes showing the reply rates by race. They have row and column weighted averages, and at the bottom right there seems to be the total weighted average response rate. Men get responses to 27.6% of their messages. Women get responses to 42% of their messages.
On OkCupid, women are more selective in who they respond to. How much does this generalize to more general male-female interaction? That’s uncertain, but it show lead us to raise our probability for the hypothesis that women are more selective in general.
I’ve seen the OkTrends results before, but I’m really not comfortable making any general inferences from them. Are there even roughly equal numbers of men and women on OkCupid? Is that information available anywhere?
I’ll be interested to read it.
That would be highly unlikely.
It isn’t the sort of thing that I would expect a dating site to advertise. “10:1 ratio of guys to girls” (for example) isn’t the kind of message that is well calibrated to attract participants of either sex.
I have seen research done into sex ratios for online dating sites in general, not limited to OkCupid and the balance is far from even.
That’s what I would guess also, and it would certainly go a long way toward explaining why women on OkCupid appear to be so much more selective: 1) They can afford to be and 2) Their inboxes are too full to respond to a large fraction of their messages even if they wanted to.
That’s true. If OkCupid has a high male:female ratio, then it does make those numbers seem like weaker evidence of general female selectivity. But I would like to make a point:
Why are there more men on online dating websites? Could it be because they are less likely to have adequate options in real life because, perhaps… women in real life are more selective?
EDIT: Whoa! Actually, OkCupid published their stats, and they have a nearly 1:1 gender ratio. It really depends on age group there are more 18 year-old women than men by 3:2, and more mid-twenties men by about 6:7. But it’s mostly pretty damn close. So I’m going to maintain my hypothesis of greater female selectivity.
(...and I need to recreate my account.)
I thought that initially as well when I saw that post but if you look at the subheading of the graph ‘Distribution of Singles on OkCupid, By Age’ it says ‘in our sample pool of 100,000 of each’ so it is not clear to me that they actually have a 1:1 gender ratio. Presumably the sample pools were chosen to be reflective of actual age distributions within genders but it doesn’t necessarily follow that the overall gender ratios are 1:1.
Right. Must have missed that up late last night. I stand corrected.
That’s what I had been lead to expect, so my own anecdotal experience surprised me. The majority of my interactions on OkCupid, including those that have lead on to dating and relationships, have been initiated by the women in question. But I’m not complaining! ;)