The essence of being considerate is putting effort into building up an accurate mental model of another person
Beware https://www.lesswrong.com/tag/typical-mind-fallacy. The essence of being considerate is behaving in ways that the other person is comfortable and happy with. For some, that’s building accurate models (and following them). For some, that’s asking what they want in this context, rather than predicting based on a limited model.
Beware https://www.lesswrong.com/tag/typical-mind-fallacy. The essence of being considerate is behaving in ways that the other person is comfortable and happy with. For some, that’s building accurate models (and following them). For some, that’s asking what they want in this context, rather than predicting based on a limited model.
In theory, I would prefer people having a correct model of me. In practice, they usually have an incorrect model, which is why I prefer if they ask.