My own take is that I very much want a “serious” event that is also fun and jovial (i.e. Act I is fun, Act II is serious/sad, Act III is serious/transcendant), where it is ingroupy but still the sort of thing you can invite your older non-rationalist parents and non-rationalist friends to so long as those people are reasonably tolerant, and understand that they’re going to a weird ritual for a community that isn’t fully theirs. (This is basically how NYC Solstice is run)
My own take is that I very much want a “serious” event that is also fun and jovial (i.e. Act I is fun, Act II is serious/sad, Act III is serious/transcendant), where it is ingroupy but still the sort of thing you can invite your older non-rationalist parents and non-rationalist friends to so long as those people are reasonably tolerant, and understand that they’re going to a weird ritual for a community that isn’t fully theirs. (This is basically how NYC Solstice is run)