...although that’s not strictly a bad thing, in my opinion. It’s worth noting, though, that displaying pseudofamiliarity with someone who would prefer you did not is impolite.
What does pseudofamiliarity even mean? I’m guessing it means taking a tone more appropriate for someone you know well?
That’s about what I mean. Something like
Jeez, where’s Alicorn when you need her? We need someone to make a point about how, “Just because a woman sleeps with you once,...
is insulting on it’s face. But it would appear goodnatured, and would probably bring you closer to each other, if the person you were referring to (effectively in front of her) were your friend in the first place. That is what I mean by taking a familiar tone. But you can not possibly have missed that your prior relation to Alicorn is not one of warm cameraderie, so you can’t have meant it to work that way (or so I thought)*.
And if I actually had to explain that I will have to ask the question that I held back when I first saw your comment: Are you autistic?
*Edited because I assumed too much. My post became needlessly insulting towards SilasBarta. I hope that it is less so now.
I would say that is approximately correct—I read “pseudofamiliarity” as the tone you would take with an amicable acquaintance. Not as free as the way you would talk to a close personal friend, but lighthearted.
Alicorn is not an amicable acquaintance, and she has found conversation with you in the past uncomfortable. Even granting that you have the right to address her remarks without engaging her specifically, the jocular tone of your initial remark assumed a (pseudo)familiarity in your relationship which was not present.
I read “pseudofamiliarity” as the tone you would take with an amicable acquaintance.
(Or an acquaintance who is openly a rival, where it is a minor display of dominance and a signal to others that you don’t need to consider them a threat. Not that I think it applies here.)
That’s not surprising—posts where one is inclined to use smilies are at least pseudofamiliar.
(And—I apologize for interjecting with advice—given that Alicorn does not like you, if you are replying to her in such a tone that you would consider using smilies, you are probably being overly familiar. Jocularity is probably appropriate in other situations, though.)
(...but I would advise against cutting remarks like the one which set off this thread.)
In fact, I think Silas displays above average pseudofamiliarity.
...although that’s not strictly a bad thing, in my opinion. It’s worth noting, though, that displaying pseudofamiliarity with someone who would prefer you did not is impolite.
I agree.
What does pseudofamiliarity even mean? I’m guessing it means taking a tone more appropriate for someone you know well?
That’s about what I mean. Something like
is insulting on it’s face. But it would appear goodnatured, and would probably bring you closer to each other, if the person you were referring to (effectively in front of her) were your friend in the first place. That is what I mean by taking a familiar tone. But you can not possibly have missed that your prior relation to Alicorn is not one of warm cameraderie, so you can’t have meant it to work that way (or so I thought)*.
And if I actually had to explain that I will have to ask the question that I held back when I first saw your comment: Are you autistic?
*Edited because I assumed too much. My post became needlessly insulting towards SilasBarta. I hope that it is less so now.
I would say that is approximately correct—I read “pseudofamiliarity” as the tone you would take with an amicable acquaintance. Not as free as the way you would talk to a close personal friend, but lighthearted.
Alicorn is not an amicable acquaintance, and she has found conversation with you in the past uncomfortable. Even granting that you have the right to address her remarks without engaging her specifically, the jocular tone of your initial remark assumed a (pseudo)familiarity in your relationship which was not present.
(Or an acquaintance who is openly a rival, where it is a minor display of dominance and a signal to others that you don’t need to consider them a threat. Not that I think it applies here.)
Okay, that makes sense. I do use a lot of smilies, just to make sure the intent is clear.
That’s not surprising—posts where one is inclined to use smilies are at least pseudofamiliar.
(And—I apologize for interjecting with advice—given that Alicorn does not like you, if you are replying to her in such a tone that you would consider using smilies, you are probably being overly familiar. Jocularity is probably appropriate in other situations, though.)
(...but I would advise against cutting remarks like the one which set off this thread.)
As far as I know it didn’t mean anything until now, except as a pseudo-technical term used by memory researchers. But ‘familiar’ means roughly that.