I like most of this, but I’m a little unsure how to fit it into my intellectual model of human interactions (which includes a gradient of a few people really close/important, a few dozen somewhat close, a few hundred casual acquaintances, maybe 10K I distinguish from the masses, and maybe a few tens of categories of “masses”. And individuals move up and down this distance gradient over time.
The end goal here is to develop your sense of “human-ness” such that you can anticipate, expect, and normalize the messiness that’s inherent in all of us.
Is that an end-goal, or an intermediate goal toward some other end? I don’t think I want to expend the effort on understanding and identifying the individual messiness of very many people. I want a general understanding of the variability and messiness of humans, and some patterns for distinguishing what interactions work best with which types of individuals.
My hope is that these suggestions + framing allow us to reckon with one another more fully and make the process of building close bonds easier.
This is excellent for those I want to be close to. It’s far too complex for the 7.7 billion others, and does not apply for the trillions of entities yet to be created.
I like most of this, but I’m a little unsure how to fit it into my intellectual model of human interactions (which includes a gradient of a few people really close/important, a few dozen somewhat close, a few hundred casual acquaintances, maybe 10K I distinguish from the masses, and maybe a few tens of categories of “masses”. And individuals move up and down this distance gradient over time.
Is that an end-goal, or an intermediate goal toward some other end? I don’t think I want to expend the effort on understanding and identifying the individual messiness of very many people. I want a general understanding of the variability and messiness of humans, and some patterns for distinguishing what interactions work best with which types of individuals.
This is excellent for those I want to be close to. It’s far too complex for the 7.7 billion others, and does not apply for the trillions of entities yet to be created.
Oh, right. I think an implicit thing here is “for people you want to be close to, this makes sense to do”.
In other cases, as I sorta skimmed over, having simplified models, relying on norms/roles, etc. etc. is usually enough to get by.