This is about personal improvement. My wife and I have parted in september and that is the major life change I have been ‘working on’ with all my rationality. Incidentally most changes by that are complete now.
So this is a good point to announce and pre-commit on writing a post on dealing rationally with a major life crisis (as I believe I did).
I planned and started to write that post but I am not sure how to present the case esp. without giving too much private details.
Maybe you can help:
Is there interest in such an account? What kind of interest?
Are there any existing posts on dealing with a major life crisis on LW?
What questions would you like to see answered by such a post?
Would you like to discuss this topic in private?
Would you recommend such a post for Main?
Note that I don’t need counseling and gladly are psychologically healthy despite being the one who was left with four children by my wife for another one. I also don’t need recommendations or further readings as I researched the topic sufficiently in depth during the hard times (I will provide some references on this in my post).
For the curious: The solution I orchestrated is that my wife and her new significant other now live in a house we bought (mortgaged) over the street and the children live in both houses (since today). And we negotiated a (notary) marriage contract that spells out the terms of the whole thing.
Interestingly I hit on LW not long before the breakup (no: LW had no part in that) and it did help to deal with the situation sanely (maybe you can find some hints in my posts from that time; I got much strength from things we did right esp. for the children).
I will post the writeup on Monday, January 20th, 2 AM CET at the latest (or refrain from it altogether).
I give 10:1 odds that a well written post on “dealing with a major life crisis” will attract a lot of interest. Whether it will be Mainable depends on how much others can learn from your story, and from your short summary it looks like there are some interesting lessons to be had. If you want to run a few things by a smaller audience first, the Freenode #lesswrong IRC channel seems like a place to start.
This is about personal improvement. My wife and I have parted in september and that is the major life change I have been ‘working on’ with all my rationality. Incidentally most changes by that are complete now.
So this is a good point to announce and pre-commit on writing a post on dealing rationally with a major life crisis (as I believe I did). I planned and started to write that post but I am not sure how to present the case esp. without giving too much private details.
Maybe you can help:
Is there interest in such an account? What kind of interest?
Are there any existing posts on dealing with a major life crisis on LW?
What questions would you like to see answered by such a post?
Would you like to discuss this topic in private?
Would you recommend such a post for Main?
Note that I don’t need counseling and gladly are psychologically healthy despite being the one who was left with four children by my wife for another one. I also don’t need recommendations or further readings as I researched the topic sufficiently in depth during the hard times (I will provide some references on this in my post).
For the curious: The solution I orchestrated is that my wife and her new significant other now live in a house we bought (mortgaged) over the street and the children live in both houses (since today). And we negotiated a (notary) marriage contract that spells out the terms of the whole thing.
Interestingly I hit on LW not long before the breakup (no: LW had no part in that) and it did help to deal with the situation sanely (maybe you can find some hints in my posts from that time; I got much strength from things we did right esp. for the children).
I will post the writeup on Monday, January 20th, 2 AM CET at the latest (or refrain from it altogether).
I give 10:1 odds that a well written post on “dealing with a major life crisis” will attract a lot of interest. Whether it will be Mainable depends on how much others can learn from your story, and from your short summary it looks like there are some interesting lessons to be had. If you want to run a few things by a smaller audience first, the Freenode #lesswrong IRC channel seems like a place to start.