Well, people usually enjoy yummy food even if they have no, uh… co-eating attraction? to the person they’re eating it with. Something like “co-eating attraction” could exist, maybe there are people out there who have that, where they experience an arousal of their gustatory desires in response to another person, but I don’t think that’s typical. (I hope it’s clear that what I’m talking about is different from the quite common phenomenon of food being more enjoyable when other factors, such as the company, ambiance, etc. are also enjoyable.)
Sexual attraction, on the other hand, is a common thing, and people’s enjoyment of sex is often strongly related to their attraction to the person they’re having sex with. Of course, it’s also possible for some people to enjoy sex without being at all attracted to the person they’re having sex with, but that’s not the typical scenario, is it? If I tried really hard for a long time, maybe I could learn to enjoy sex with a woman despite being exclusively androsexual, but I’m not at all confident that I could.
So yes, sex can be non-attractional like pie, but it’s more commonly thought of as being strongly attractional. It’s that attraction part that my weirdtopia doesn’t have. People in my weirdtopia could still enjoy sex, but why would they when they’ve got pie, I mean wire-heading?
Surely you mean cake? (For those who don’t get it, the above post pattern-matches with certain asexual/aromantic relationship preferences.)
You’re right, cake would have been more appropriate. :) (Except I love pie way more.)
Now I don’t get it even more.
To the OP:
Can you explain the difference? To me eating delicious pie together looks like a good metaphor for sex.
Well, people usually enjoy yummy food even if they have no, uh… co-eating attraction? to the person they’re eating it with. Something like “co-eating attraction” could exist, maybe there are people out there who have that, where they experience an arousal of their gustatory desires in response to another person, but I don’t think that’s typical. (I hope it’s clear that what I’m talking about is different from the quite common phenomenon of food being more enjoyable when other factors, such as the company, ambiance, etc. are also enjoyable.)
Sexual attraction, on the other hand, is a common thing, and people’s enjoyment of sex is often strongly related to their attraction to the person they’re having sex with. Of course, it’s also possible for some people to enjoy sex without being at all attracted to the person they’re having sex with, but that’s not the typical scenario, is it? If I tried really hard for a long time, maybe I could learn to enjoy sex with a woman despite being exclusively androsexual, but I’m not at all confident that I could.
So yes, sex can be non-attractional like pie, but it’s more commonly thought of as being strongly attractional. It’s that attraction part that my weirdtopia doesn’t have. People in my weirdtopia could still enjoy sex, but why would they when they’ve got pie, I mean wire-heading?
What specifically are you confused about?
It is. In fact, a common meme in the asexual community is that cake is preferred over sex.