I think you’re saying that there are two different relationships to goals (lighthouses and final destinations).
Could you give an example of a goal you used to treat as a final destination, but you now treat as a lighthouse? And in what way it is better?
Proximate goal: ‘don’t touch my stuff!’
Less proximate goal: wanting to know where things are when I need them
Less proximate: wanting to feel safe in my ability to meet my needs
Less proximate goal: safety
Less proximate goal: efficient compression of whatever ‘safety’ refers to in the training data I actually lived through
It’s difficult to prioritize among goals when you don’t know what they’re really about.
I found this absurdly hilarious; loved the punchline. Thank you.
But then, how do you decide what to do?
I try to put as much effort in as I feel the decision is impactful. Sometimes I am better calibrated on this than others. I try to figure out what I really want and get it efficiently.
I think you’re saying that there are two different relationships to goals (lighthouses and final destinations).
Could you give an example of a goal you used to treat as a final destination, but you now treat as a lighthouse? And in what way it is better?
Proximate goal: ‘don’t touch my stuff!’
Less proximate goal: wanting to know where things are when I need them
Less proximate: wanting to feel safe in my ability to meet my needs
Less proximate goal: safety
Less proximate goal: efficient compression of whatever ‘safety’ refers to in the training data I actually lived through
It’s difficult to prioritize among goals when you don’t know what they’re really about.
I found this absurdly hilarious; loved the punchline. Thank you.
But then, how do you decide what to do?
I try to put as much effort in as I feel the decision is impactful. Sometimes I am better calibrated on this than others. I try to figure out what I really want and get it efficiently.