Truth and Feelings can be reconciled, so long as you are not extreme about either.: if your true beliefs are hurtful you can keep them to yourself. Your worldview can be kept separate from your persona. The problem is when you bring a third thing—the thing known as sincerity or tactlessness, depending on whether or not you believe in it—into the picture. If you feel obliged to tell the truth, you are going to hurt feelings.
This used to be well known, but is becoming unknown because of an increasing tendency to use words like “truth and “honesty” in a way that encompasses offering unsolicited opinions in addition to avoid lying. If you can’t make a verbal distinction, its hard to make a conceptual one.
He visibly cared about other people being in touch with reality. “I’ve informed a number of male college students that they have large, clearly detectable body odors. In every single case so far, they say nobody has ever told them that before,” he wrote. (I can testify that this is true: while sharing a car ride with Anna Salamon in 2011, he told me I had B.O.)[21]
Well, that goes beyond having true beliefs and only making true statements.
Truth and Feelings can be reconciled, so long as you are not extreme about either.: if your true beliefs are hurtful you can keep them to yourself. Your worldview can be kept separate from your persona. The problem is when you bring a third thing—the thing known as sincerity or tactlessness, depending on whether or not you believe in it—into the picture. If you feel obliged to tell the truth, you are going to hurt feelings.
This used to be well known, but is becoming unknown because of an increasing tendency to use words like “truth and “honesty” in a way that encompasses offering unsolicited opinions in addition to avoid lying. If you can’t make a verbal distinction, its hard to make a conceptual one.
Well, that goes beyond having true beliefs and only making true statements.