“Romance is complex” is a very common cached thought, but unless my experience is utterly freakish, a wrong one. My partner and I get in fights, like anybody does, but not over anything particularly mysterious or complex. Sure, part of the pleasures of early romance is discovering the various nuances of someone, until you have a better working model of them than yourself, but the joys of a relationship aren’t over after that point. You may end up taking joy in the merely real.
I say this as someone frequently helpless and confused when it comes to how to deal with friends, strangers, co-workers, &c.
“Romance is complex” is a very common cached thought, but unless my experience is utterly freakish, a wrong one. My partner and I get in fights, like anybody does, but not over anything particularly mysterious or complex. Sure, part of the pleasures of early romance is discovering the various nuances of someone, until you have a better working model of them than yourself, but the joys of a relationship aren’t over after that point. You may end up taking joy in the merely real.
I say this as someone frequently helpless and confused when it comes to how to deal with friends, strangers, co-workers, &c.