You were doing both. Male nerds is obvious, women is more implicit:
women being more like men [...] in the sense of [X]
clearly implies a belief that, generally, women are to some degree less X than men. It’s possible that you meant to attribute this belief to the male nerds as well as the desire in question, but this was not clear in the post. The generalization, as well, may be correct or not—it certainly corresponds to traditional western courtship ritual of the past century.
You were doing both. Male nerds is obvious, women is more implicit:
clearly implies a belief that, generally, women are to some degree less X than men. It’s possible that you meant to attribute this belief to the male nerds as well as the desire in question, but this was not clear in the post. The generalization, as well, may be correct or not—it certainly corresponds to traditional western courtship ritual of the past century.
This.
My mistake then. Thanks to daenerys for pointing it out! :)