If eight of your friends are involved in massive unpleasant social drama
… then my first step is to admit that they have a problem. In times past, I may not have noticed that distinction, to the detriment of my decision making. I say this to emphasise just how important the step of identifying the problem is. If I neglected this step I may jump straight into ‘dramatic’ tasks without thinking.
Once I realize that my problem is “something is getting on my nerves” I can begin looking for solutions. Whether that be quashing social conflict or reassessing my personal boundaries.
I used that as an example because the problem I had that prompted this train of thought was a bunch of social drama, in which I was a catalyst but not (except voluntarily in my attempt to find a solution) a participant. It seemed quite clear to me (in a way I’ll get to in the next post in the sequence) that I needed to solve the problem of social drama, even if I didn’t hold myself responsible for it or, strictly speaking, need to involve myself in it.
… then my first step is to admit that they have a problem. In times past, I may not have noticed that distinction, to the detriment of my decision making. I say this to emphasise just how important the step of identifying the problem is. If I neglected this step I may jump straight into ‘dramatic’ tasks without thinking.
Once I realize that my problem is “something is getting on my nerves” I can begin looking for solutions. Whether that be quashing social conflict or reassessing my personal boundaries.
I used that as an example because the problem I had that prompted this train of thought was a bunch of social drama, in which I was a catalyst but not (except voluntarily in my attempt to find a solution) a participant. It seemed quite clear to me (in a way I’ll get to in the next post in the sequence) that I needed to solve the problem of social drama, even if I didn’t hold myself responsible for it or, strictly speaking, need to involve myself in it.