To a guy, caring about who you know can sound “elitist”, in precisely the same way that guys’ concerns about various female characteristics can sound “shallow” and un-PC to women.
Thanks for draping me with stereotypes and assuming the worst, but that wasn’t my objection.
Meta-comment unrelated to the substance of this thread: I want to apologize for the above response. I do think your analysis of my perspective is incorrect, but I realized that it’s stupidly counterproductive to actively discourage random strangers from taking stabs at my underlying psychology or motivation. I’m usually annoyed by such speculation (not just when it’s directed at me) because of its low average accuracy and distracting nature, but the expected utility of just one penetrating insight would easily outweigh the “cost” of ignoring or tersely refuting the inaccurate ones. It’s my choice whether or not to “take it personally”.
Meta-comment unrelated to the substance of this thread: I want to apologize for the above response. I do think your analysis of my perspective is incorrect, but I realized that it’s stupidly counterproductive to actively discourage random strangers from taking stabs at my underlying psychology or motivation. I’m usually annoyed by such speculation (not just when it’s directed at me) because of its low average accuracy and distracting nature, but the expected utility of just one penetrating insight would easily outweigh the “cost” of ignoring or tersely refuting the inaccurate ones. It’s my choice whether or not to “take it personally”.