I’m sorry for my late reply, I didn’t check whether there were unanswered messages.
When I said it’s ⅙ I meant that it doesn’t distinguish the different steps of focusing and their value.
Let’s say I’m Bob and I’m angry with Alice because she was supposed to take out the trash.
“Alice should have taken out the trash” might be a description of a feeling you get when following the process Conor proposed. It’s something that feels true.
In Gendlin’s model you would first make clear your space to focus on the issue. In some contexts that’s more important than in others.
The second step in the felt sense. There are processes happens when the felt sense enters awareness and there’s connection with the felt sense.
The third step would be finding the handle. “Anger” would here likely be a good handle. The handle itself isn’t the story of what caused the emotion. Step 4 is then validating whether you got the right handle.
Before learning Focusing I had the ability to feel my felt sense clearly but I didn’t have a relationship to my feelings as being named with words like “anger”, “sadness” or “curiosity”. That’s a valuable thing I got from Focusing and it generalizes for me really well to situations outside of formal Focusing.
The last step of Focusing is Questions&Answers. In this case a question might be “What should I do about it?”
This is where sometimes interesting answers come up from system I. Here it might be “I have to talk with Alice about the responsibility in the house”
Getting such an answer from system I can go along with the emotion releasing. Just getting to “Alice should have taken out the trash” might not be enough to release the feeling.
I’m sorry for my late reply, I didn’t check whether there were unanswered messages.
When I said it’s ⅙ I meant that it doesn’t distinguish the different steps of focusing and their value.
Let’s say I’m Bob and I’m angry with Alice because she was supposed to take out the trash.
“Alice should have taken out the trash” might be a description of a feeling you get when following the process Conor proposed. It’s something that feels true.
In Gendlin’s model you would first make clear your space to focus on the issue. In some contexts that’s more important than in others.
The second step in the felt sense. There are processes happens when the felt sense enters awareness and there’s connection with the felt sense.
The third step would be finding the handle. “Anger” would here likely be a good handle. The handle itself isn’t the story of what caused the emotion. Step 4 is then validating whether you got the right handle.
Before learning Focusing I had the ability to feel my felt sense clearly but I didn’t have a relationship to my feelings as being named with words like “anger”, “sadness” or “curiosity”. That’s a valuable thing I got from Focusing and it generalizes for me really well to situations outside of formal Focusing.
The last step of Focusing is Questions&Answers. In this case a question might be “What should I do about it?”
This is where sometimes interesting answers come up from system I. Here it might be “I have to talk with Alice about the responsibility in the house”
Getting such an answer from system I can go along with the emotion releasing. Just getting to “Alice should have taken out the trash” might not be enough to release the feeling.