People who have been living with serious problems for a long time find it hard to imagine that there’s been a solution within their reach all along. For the short term, it’s easier to go on putting up with the problem than it is to change one’s expectations.
ETA: I thought this had the smell of Usenet about it, and on Google Groups I found the original, written by one Alex Clark here. paulwl is actually the person he was replying to.
BTW, there’s quite a bit of rationality (and irrationality) on that newsgroup on the subject of people looking for relationships (mostly men looking for women), from way back when. I don’t know if 1996 predates the sort of PUA that has been talked about on LW.
paulwl (quoted here)
ETA: I thought this had the smell of Usenet about it, and on Google Groups I found the original, written by one Alex Clark here. paulwl is actually the person he was replying to.
BTW, there’s quite a bit of rationality (and irrationality) on that newsgroup on the subject of people looking for relationships (mostly men looking for women), from way back when. I don’t know if 1996 predates the sort of PUA that has been talked about on LW.