I like this idea! I feel like the current questions are insufficiently “stupid,” so here’s one: how do you talk to strangers?
I think the question is badly formed. I think it’s better to ask: “How do I become a person who easily talks to strangers?”
When you are in your head and think about: “How do I talk to that person over there?” you are already at a place that isn’t conductive to a good interaction.
Yesterday during the course of traveling around town three stangers did talk to me, where the stranger said the first word.
The first was a woman in mid 30s with a bicycle who was searching the elevator at the public train station.
The second was an older woman who told me that the Vibriam Fivefinger shoes in wearing look good.
The third was a girl who was biking next to me when her smart phone felt down. I picked it up and handed it back to her. She said thank you.
I’m not even counting beggars at the train in public transportation.
Later that evening I went Salsa dancing. There two woman I didn’t know who were new to Salsa asked me to dance.
Why was I at a vibe that let’s other people approach me? I spent five days at a personal development workshop given by Danis Bois. The workshop wasn’t about doing anything to strangers but among other things teaches a kind of massage and I was a lot more relaxed than I was in the past.
If you get rid of your anxiety interactions with strangers start to flow naturally.
What can you do apart from visiting personal development seminars that put you into a good emotional state?
Wear something that makes it easy for strangers to start a conversation with you. One of the benefits of Vibriam Fivefingers is that people are frequently curious about them.
Do good exercises.
1) One exercise is to say ‘hi’ or ‘good morning’ to every stranger you pass. I don’t do it currently but it’s a good exercise to teach yourself that interaction with strangers is natural.
2) Learn some form of meditation to get into a relaxed state of mind.
3) If you want to approach a person at a bar you might feel anxiety. Locate that anxiety in your body. At the beginning it makes sense to put your hand where you locate it.
Ask yourself: “Where does that feeling want to move in my body” Tell it to “soften and flow”. Let it flow where it wants to flow in your body. Usually it wants to flow at a specific location out of your body.
Do the same with the feeling of rejection, should a stranger reject you.
Exercise three is something that I only learned recently and I’m not sure if I’m able to explain it well over the internet. In case anybody reading it finds it useful I would be interested in feedback.
I think the question is badly formed. I think it’s better to ask: “How do I become a person who easily talks to strangers?” When you are in your head and think about: “How do I talk to that person over there?” you are already at a place that isn’t conductive to a good interaction.
Yesterday during the course of traveling around town three stangers did talk to me, where the stranger said the first word.
The first was a woman in mid 30s with a bicycle who was searching the elevator at the public train station. The second was an older woman who told me that the Vibriam Fivefinger shoes in wearing look good. The third was a girl who was biking next to me when her smart phone felt down. I picked it up and handed it back to her. She said thank you.
I’m not even counting beggars at the train in public transportation.
Later that evening I went Salsa dancing. There two woman I didn’t know who were new to Salsa asked me to dance.
Why was I at a vibe that let’s other people approach me? I spent five days at a personal development workshop given by Danis Bois. The workshop wasn’t about doing anything to strangers but among other things teaches a kind of massage and I was a lot more relaxed than I was in the past.
If you get rid of your anxiety interactions with strangers start to flow naturally.
What can you do apart from visiting personal development seminars that put you into a good emotional state?
Wear something that makes it easy for strangers to start a conversation with you. One of the benefits of Vibriam Fivefingers is that people are frequently curious about them.
Do good exercises.
1) One exercise is to say ‘hi’ or ‘good morning’ to every stranger you pass. I don’t do it currently but it’s a good exercise to teach yourself that interaction with strangers is natural.
2) Learn some form of meditation to get into a relaxed state of mind.
3) If you want to approach a person at a bar you might feel anxiety. Locate that anxiety in your body. At the beginning it makes sense to put your hand where you locate it.
Ask yourself: “Where does that feeling want to move in my body” Tell it to “soften and flow”. Let it flow where it wants to flow in your body. Usually it wants to flow at a specific location out of your body.
Do the same with the feeling of rejection, should a stranger reject you.
Exercise three is something that I only learned recently and I’m not sure if I’m able to explain it well over the internet. In case anybody reading it finds it useful I would be interested in feedback.
I recently found a nice mind hack for that: “What would my drunken self do?”
o.O
Sure she wasn’t being sarcastic? ;-)
In this case yes, because of the bodylanguage and the vibe in which the words were said.
If a person wants to make you a compliement, wearing an item that extraordinary makes it easy for the other person to start a conversation.
I also get frequently asked where I brought my Vibriams.