I am a bit surprised about one of them still being a friend of yours. Do you in a sense forgive him because I don’t know it wasn’t too painful or him being not aware of what he was doing? My intuition was kind of the amount of trauma might be about the amount of pain. If it’s really painful one can of cause get very traumatised as you also point out, it would have been diferent if it would have been very violent
I am a bit surprised about one of them still being a friend of yours. Do you in a sense forgive him because I don’t know it wasn’t too painful or him being not aware of what he was doing? My intuition was kind of the amount of trauma might be about the amount of pain. If it’s really painful one can of cause get very traumatised as you also point out, it would have been diferent if it would have been very violent