I think the critical difference is that while marital rape might not be a legal crime, and might not be seen as wrong by people who aren’t subjected to it, it’s obviously wrong for the person suffering it, and obviously identifiable as coercive and abusive even to the perpetrator.
The spectrum then becomes (recognized as wrong x feels wrong) → (not recognized as wrong → feels wrong) → (recognized as wrong x doesn’t feel wrong) → (not recognized as wrong x doesn’t feel wrong).
I think people are only talking about quadrant 3 when saying “sexual abuse attitudes could be [bad].” And that is, like you point out, something that people experience differently, and depends on the specifics of the case rather than the category. It’s a near certainty that some of the cases described in this comment are in fact nonconsensual and traumatic, for example. But if someone who did not experience trauma from that practice emigrated to the West and was told over and over again that something deeply traumatic happened to them, this seems like an instance where the problem could be “created out of thin air” as you put it.
Overall, though, the question is whether quadrant 2 or quadrant 3 is bigger, and I think it’s very likely that quadrant 3, while existent, is not as large as quadrant 2. Thanks for pointing this out.
I think the critical difference is that while marital rape might not be a legal crime, and might not be seen as wrong by people who aren’t subjected to it, it’s obviously wrong for the person suffering it, and obviously identifiable as coercive and abusive even to the perpetrator.
The spectrum then becomes (recognized as wrong x feels wrong) → (not recognized as wrong → feels wrong) → (recognized as wrong x doesn’t feel wrong) → (not recognized as wrong x doesn’t feel wrong).
I think people are only talking about quadrant 3 when saying “sexual abuse attitudes could be [bad].” And that is, like you point out, something that people experience differently, and depends on the specifics of the case rather than the category. It’s a near certainty that some of the cases described in this comment are in fact nonconsensual and traumatic, for example. But if someone who did not experience trauma from that practice emigrated to the West and was told over and over again that something deeply traumatic happened to them, this seems like an instance where the problem could be “created out of thin air” as you put it.
Overall, though, the question is whether quadrant 2 or quadrant 3 is bigger, and I think it’s very likely that quadrant 3, while existent, is not as large as quadrant 2. Thanks for pointing this out.