Woots! That’s good calibration right there! I think you’re going to be fine. =]
Also, I don’t know what types of requests you were talking about, but if they’re about making plans, a nice trick is to sometimes say “Can you please let me know by [day, time]?” That’s not weird or clingy because everyone understands (or at least they should) that people are busy and need to know stuff to plan out their schedules. So you have some control over the time window in which you feel anxious. If she doesn’t respond in that window, then assume no (like the pocket veto!) and do something else!
Weirdly I’ve been noticing myself having some of these “wouldn’t be the worst thing in the world” thoughts spontaneously.
That’s good! Because it wouldn’t be. =]
Uhh. Is the anxiety bad enough that you’re sometimes tempted to dump her first just to not have to deal with it anymore?
Definitely not. Nothing since we started going out has remotely compared to how hard it was to ask her out the first time, anyway.
Woots! That’s good calibration right there! I think you’re going to be fine. =]
Also, I don’t know what types of requests you were talking about, but if they’re about making plans, a nice trick is to sometimes say “Can you please let me know by [day, time]?” That’s not weird or clingy because everyone understands (or at least they should) that people are busy and need to know stuff to plan out their schedules. So you have some control over the time window in which you feel anxious. If she doesn’t respond in that window, then assume no (like the pocket veto!) and do something else!