From personal experience the best advice is to date a lot and get hurt a lot and build up a thick enough skin to where you don’t care anymore about the rejections.
Worrying about the rejection will only make rejection more likely.
Act as if you are a confident person, then other people think you are confident, and you’ll become more confident. While of course actually trying to do things to actually become more capable too, since that improves your confidence as well.
The other ideas here also are good techniques too, but what I found is that when I had been burned enough to stop caring about rejection was when I suddenly became successful at dating. The main thing that had changed was not worrying about it.
How has this aquired negative points? This is the single best piece of advice in this whole woebegone thread.
I have observed that votes within this thread have a weak correlation with advice quality. (Although it is likely my perceptions are drastically over-weighing the few really stark examples of vote insanity like this one.)
Hmm, I expect it got negative points because Kenoubi is already dating someone and he’s happy dating them. Dating other girls right now might be counterproductive. Other techniques for worrying less would be more useful ATM. However, if this relationship doesn’t work out dating a lot might be good advice!
Yeah, I was gonna say pretty much exactly this. It may be the advice the most likely to lead to general dating success over the long term, but it really doesn’t help me deal with my situation right now. (Though I certainly didn’t downvote it.)
If It seemed like I meant he should ditch her and move on, I apologize.
My main point was basically “what would future me say to past me when I felt that way?” And that most definitely is “Don’t worry, it’ll work out.” Because that’s the best advice of all.
It’ll either work out positively in which case you’ll have a good relationship, or it’ll work out negatively in which case you’ll have some good memories and some hard lessons learned for next time. And if you can think of those let downs as one more layer of thicker skin to help you not worry about them, you’ll be better off.
I know it doesn’t seem that way now, but there really is nothing to worry about.
From personal experience the best advice is to date a lot and get hurt a lot and build up a thick enough skin to where you don’t care anymore about the rejections.
Worrying about the rejection will only make rejection more likely.
Act as if you are a confident person, then other people think you are confident, and you’ll become more confident. While of course actually trying to do things to actually become more capable too, since that improves your confidence as well.
The other ideas here also are good techniques too, but what I found is that when I had been burned enough to stop caring about rejection was when I suddenly became successful at dating. The main thing that had changed was not worrying about it.
How has this aquired negative points? This is the single best piece of advice in the whole woebegone thread.
I have observed that votes within this thread have a weak correlation with advice quality. (Although it is likely my perceptions are drastically over-weighing the few really stark examples of vote insanity like this one.)
Hmm, I expect it got negative points because Kenoubi is already dating someone and he’s happy dating them. Dating other girls right now might be counterproductive. Other techniques for worrying less would be more useful ATM. However, if this relationship doesn’t work out dating a lot might be good advice!
Yeah, I was gonna say pretty much exactly this. It may be the advice the most likely to lead to general dating success over the long term, but it really doesn’t help me deal with my situation right now. (Though I certainly didn’t downvote it.)
If It seemed like I meant he should ditch her and move on, I apologize.
My main point was basically “what would future me say to past me when I felt that way?” And that most definitely is “Don’t worry, it’ll work out.” Because that’s the best advice of all.
It’ll either work out positively in which case you’ll have a good relationship, or it’ll work out negatively in which case you’ll have some good memories and some hard lessons learned for next time. And if you can think of those let downs as one more layer of thicker skin to help you not worry about them, you’ll be better off.
I know it doesn’t seem that way now, but there really is nothing to worry about.