I agree that there’s a difference between those two things. I agree with you that conflating the difference between those two things is problematic.
I disagree with you that the example you give conflates that difference.
If I had pushed someone onto a bed to signal to them that I wanted to have sex with them (I’ve undoubtedly done this many times, though I can’t currently remember specific examples) I would not say “yes” if asked whether I’d ever pushed someone onto a bed to make them have sex with me.
The key word for me is “make.”
If I make you have sex with me, that’s different from playfully encouraging you to have sex with me.
(nods) Surveys are problematic that way, in general. The only way I know of to get around it is to phrase every question several different ways and look for variation among the answers based on the phrasing.
The safest move is probably to simply discard any question where the answer depends too much on the phrasing, although in practice that probably means discarding all survey results ever.
Mostly, survey results are good for comparing results on the same survey over time.
I agree that there’s a difference between those two things. I agree with you that conflating the difference between those two things is problematic.
I disagree with you that the example you give conflates that difference.
If I had pushed someone onto a bed to signal to them that I wanted to have sex with them (I’ve undoubtedly done this many times, though I can’t currently remember specific examples) I would not say “yes” if asked whether I’d ever pushed someone onto a bed to make them have sex with me.
The key word for me is “make.”
If I make you have sex with me, that’s different from playfully encouraging you to have sex with me.
Exactly so.
I do think that wording the question that way is a bit questionable, though, since it can easily be misread.
(nods) Surveys are problematic that way, in general. The only way I know of to get around it is to phrase every question several different ways and look for variation among the answers based on the phrasing.
The safest move is probably to simply discard any question where the answer depends too much on the phrasing, although in practice that probably means discarding all survey results ever.
Mostly, survey results are good for comparing results on the same survey over time.