Disclaimer: I believe I have a lot less interest in dating than most men. Partially introspection/partially revealed preference when opportunity arose.
I hadn’t thought about that view. One thing is that it is worth noting is that it is hard to ignore dating. And people tend to ask for some explanation, I tend to go with, “I haven’t found the right person yet,” though.
Although what would you say the right response was to not being willing to pay a cost for something? Lets say you want a sports car, you lust after it for a bit. Then you find it costs 3 million dollars, and you could always find better things to do with the money.
Should you then say you don’t care about the sports car? Or should you leave it as a nagging desire which will never be fulfilled?
Should you then say you don’t care about the sports car? Or should you leave it as a nagging desire which will never be fulfilled?
This seems like a false dichotomy. My answer to this question is something along the lines of “the current price of a sports car is more than I am currently willing to pay for the pleasure of owning a sports car, in the future circumstances may be different but for now I will make higher expected value choices”.
To me things and people I care about are those that I willingly expend some mental energy on every so often. So when I care about owning a sports car, every so often it would pop into my head, “Darn, I wish the car was cheaper”. As it is unlikely to become so it would be an unfulfilled desire and taking up mental energy for no reason, I could spend that mental energy elsewhere.
Care is different from value. Does that explain what I meant?
I think I understand what you mean, I just don’t think it’s a good strategy to try to convince yourself you don’t care about something because it is not currently attainable. A better alternative might be to think about what appeals to you about owning a sports car and consider if there are lower cost ways of getting some of the same benefits for example.
Oh, I agree. But once you have done so would it be a bad idea to say you no longer care about the sport’s car?
Aside: I didn’t mean to give the impression it was unattainable. The hypothetical still works if you’ve got 4 million dollars, you could buy a house and donate some money to xrisk charities, found companies or put it aside for retirement. All better things than the car.
If you want a sports car that implies that there is some point at which the best marginal use of your next 3 million dollars would be to buy the sports car. If there is no such point then it seems to me that you don’t really want it in any meaningful sense.
Disclaimer: I believe I have a lot less interest in dating than most men. Partially introspection/partially revealed preference when opportunity arose.
I hadn’t thought about that view. One thing is that it is worth noting is that it is hard to ignore dating. And people tend to ask for some explanation, I tend to go with, “I haven’t found the right person yet,” though.
Although what would you say the right response was to not being willing to pay a cost for something? Lets say you want a sports car, you lust after it for a bit. Then you find it costs 3 million dollars, and you could always find better things to do with the money.
Should you then say you don’t care about the sports car? Or should you leave it as a nagging desire which will never be fulfilled?
This seems like a false dichotomy. My answer to this question is something along the lines of “the current price of a sports car is more than I am currently willing to pay for the pleasure of owning a sports car, in the future circumstances may be different but for now I will make higher expected value choices”.
To me things and people I care about are those that I willingly expend some mental energy on every so often. So when I care about owning a sports car, every so often it would pop into my head, “Darn, I wish the car was cheaper”. As it is unlikely to become so it would be an unfulfilled desire and taking up mental energy for no reason, I could spend that mental energy elsewhere.
Care is different from value. Does that explain what I meant?
I think I understand what you mean, I just don’t think it’s a good strategy to try to convince yourself you don’t care about something because it is not currently attainable. A better alternative might be to think about what appeals to you about owning a sports car and consider if there are lower cost ways of getting some of the same benefits for example.
Oh, I agree. But once you have done so would it be a bad idea to say you no longer care about the sport’s car?
Aside: I didn’t mean to give the impression it was unattainable. The hypothetical still works if you’ve got 4 million dollars, you could buy a house and donate some money to xrisk charities, found companies or put it aside for retirement. All better things than the car.
If you want a sports car that implies that there is some point at which the best marginal use of your next 3 million dollars would be to buy the sports car. If there is no such point then it seems to me that you don’t really want it in any meaningful sense.