A small scale and probably more common example—a friend who lost his job because his co-workers and his immediate boss didn’t trust him because he wouldn’t pad his expense account.
They were probably worried that he would inform on others for padding their expense accounts. Someone who follows a stricter set of moral rules, but doesn’t plan to force those rules on others, should be sure to clarify that they don’t mind others following less strict rules, within reason, and wouldn’t make trouble over them.
From what my friend told me, his Asperger’s meant that he was very bad at getting neurotypicals to trust him.
Also, his explicit thinking was that he had no way to figure out when to bend the explicit rules, so he was going to follow them. This might imply that if the rules changed to require him to report people who were breaking them, he’d comply.
These sound like two problems of the same class. To avoid similar future problems of this type, your friend should study how NTs create and enforce social norms, probably with reference to game theory.
Many of the social deficiencies that are typically a part of AS can be worked around by explicitly thinking out chains of reasoning that NTs perform instinctively, and then practicing that kind of thinking enough that it becomes (relatively) instinctual. Social skills are skills.
They were probably worried that he would inform on others for padding their expense accounts. Someone who follows a stricter set of moral rules, but doesn’t plan to force those rules on others, should be sure to clarify that they don’t mind others following less strict rules, within reason, and wouldn’t make trouble over them.
From what my friend told me, his Asperger’s meant that he was very bad at getting neurotypicals to trust him.
Also, his explicit thinking was that he had no way to figure out when to bend the explicit rules, so he was going to follow them. This might imply that if the rules changed to require him to report people who were breaking them, he’d comply.
These sound like two problems of the same class. To avoid similar future problems of this type, your friend should study how NTs create and enforce social norms, probably with reference to game theory.
Many of the social deficiencies that are typically a part of AS can be worked around by explicitly thinking out chains of reasoning that NTs perform instinctively, and then practicing that kind of thinking enough that it becomes (relatively) instinctual. Social skills are skills.