This is not an easy-to-implement tip, but my suggestion is to try to get into a mental space where the social things that you’re trying to do are easy / come naturally / are the things that you want to do in the moment.
A person who is naturally friendly, non-critical, and interesting in hearing about you probably did not get that way just by practicing each of those behaviors as habits; they have some deeper motivation/perspective/emotion/something that those behaviors naturally follow from. Try to get in touch with that deeper thing.
One thing that helps with this is noticing when you’ve had the experience of being in a mental space where the things come more naturally (even if only briefly, or only marginally more naturally). Then you can try to get back into that mental space, and take it further.
Another thing that can help is putting yourself in different social situations, including ones that you’re liable to get swept up in (that is, ones that are likely to put you in a different mental space from where you usually are). That can be a quicker way to get some experience being in different modes. Reading books (and watching videos, etc.) can also help, especially if you do things like these as you read them.
This is not an easy-to-implement tip, but my suggestion is to try to get into a mental space where the social things that you’re trying to do are easy / come naturally / are the things that you want to do in the moment.
A person who is naturally friendly, non-critical, and interesting in hearing about you probably did not get that way just by practicing each of those behaviors as habits; they have some deeper motivation/perspective/emotion/something that those behaviors naturally follow from. Try to get in touch with that deeper thing.
One thing that helps with this is noticing when you’ve had the experience of being in a mental space where the things come more naturally (even if only briefly, or only marginally more naturally). Then you can try to get back into that mental space, and take it further.
Another thing that can help is putting yourself in different social situations, including ones that you’re liable to get swept up in (that is, ones that are likely to put you in a different mental space from where you usually are). That can be a quicker way to get some experience being in different modes. Reading books (and watching videos, etc.) can also help, especially if you do things like these as you read them.