Keep in mind that describing something is not the same as approving or advocating. I would like it if status was used in the way that you describe. Sometimes it can be, and is, used that way. But it is a mistake to assume that status is supposed to be a measure of competence and an even greater mistake to expect it to be correlated (positively) with treating others better. It just isn’t.
but it’s a silly game
It’s a silly game, but it is one that is played right down to the very core of our instincts. And it is right through to the core of even those ‘close relationships’ you mention. You can’t avoid the game. Just find the parts of it you like or are of particular use to you and satisfice the rest.
Keep in mind that describing something is not the same as approving or advocating. I would like it if status was used in the way that you describe. Sometimes it can be, and is, used that way. But it is a mistake to assume that status is supposed to be a measure of competence and an even greater mistake to expect it to be correlated (positively) with treating others better. It just isn’t.
It’s a silly game, but it is one that is played right down to the very core of our instincts. And it is right through to the core of even those ‘close relationships’ you mention. You can’t avoid the game. Just find the parts of it you like or are of particular use to you and satisfice the rest.