One of the things that can feel like gaslighting in a community that attracts highly scrupulous people is when posting about your interpretation of your experience is treated as a contractual obligation to defend the claims and discuss any possible misinterpretations or consequences of what is a challenging thing to write in the first place.
I feel like here and in so many other comments in this discussion that there’s important and subtle distinctions that are being missed. I don’t have any intention to conditionlessly accept and support all accusations made (I have seen false accusations cause incredible harm and suicidality in people close to me). I do expect people who make serious claims about organizations to be careful about how they do it. I think Zoe’s Leverage post easily met my standard, but that this post here triggered a lot of warning flags for me, and I find it important to pay attention to those.
I think that the phrases “treated as a contractual obligation” and “any possible misinterpretations or consequences” are both hyperbole, if they are (as they seem) intended as fair summaries or descriptions of what Aella wrote above.
I think there’s a skipped step here, where you’re trying to say that what Aella wrote above might imply those things, or might result in those things, or might be tantamount to those things, but I think it’s quite important to not miss that step.
Before objecting to Aella’s [A] by saying “[B] is bad!” I think one should justify or at least explicitly assert [A—>B]
Yes, and to clarify I am not attempting to imply that there is something wrong with Aella’s comment. It’s more like this is a pattern I have observed and talked about with others. I don’t think people playing a part in a pattern that has some negative side effects should necessarily have a responsibility frame around that, especially given that one literally can’t track all various possible side effects of actions. I see epistemic statuses as partially attempting to give people more affordance for thinking about possible side effects of the multi context nature of online comms and that was used to good effect here, I likely would have had a more negative reaction to Aella’s post if it hadn’t included the epistemic status.
One of the things that can feel like gaslighting in a community that attracts highly scrupulous people is when posting about your interpretation of your experience is treated as a contractual obligation to defend the claims and discuss any possible misinterpretations or consequences of what is a challenging thing to write in the first place.
I feel like here and in so many other comments in this discussion that there’s important and subtle distinctions that are being missed. I don’t have any intention to conditionlessly accept and support all accusations made (I have seen false accusations cause incredible harm and suicidality in people close to me). I do expect people who make serious claims about organizations to be careful about how they do it. I think Zoe’s Leverage post easily met my standard, but that this post here triggered a lot of warning flags for me, and I find it important to pay attention to those.
Speaking of highly scrupulous...
I think that the phrases “treated as a contractual obligation” and “any possible misinterpretations or consequences” are both hyperbole, if they are (as they seem) intended as fair summaries or descriptions of what Aella wrote above.
I think there’s a skipped step here, where you’re trying to say that what Aella wrote above might imply those things, or might result in those things, or might be tantamount to those things, but I think it’s quite important to not miss that step.
Before objecting to Aella’s [A] by saying “[B] is bad!” I think one should justify or at least explicitly assert [A—>B]
Yes, and to clarify I am not attempting to imply that there is something wrong with Aella’s comment. It’s more like this is a pattern I have observed and talked about with others. I don’t think people playing a part in a pattern that has some negative side effects should necessarily have a responsibility frame around that, especially given that one literally can’t track all various possible side effects of actions. I see epistemic statuses as partially attempting to give people more affordance for thinking about possible side effects of the multi context nature of online comms and that was used to good effect here, I likely would have had a more negative reaction to Aella’s post if it hadn’t included the epistemic status.