That suggests that the safest way to exit is to gradually start meeting new people outside the group, start spending more time with them and less time with other group member, until the majority of your social life happens outside the group, which is when you should quit.
This is what I did, it was just still a pretty small social group, and getting it and “quitting” were part of the same process.
(does this refer to rationalists and EAs? not sure)
I think it was other subgroups at Leverage, at least primarily. So “mental objects” would be a consideration in favor of making friends outside of the group. Unless one is worried about spreading mental objects to outsiders.
Now, do you insist that your experience in MIRI/CFAR was of the same kind?
Most of this is answered in the post, e.g. I made it clear that the over-scheduling issue was not a problem for me at MIRI, which is an important difference. I was certainly spending a lot of time outside of work doing psychological work, and I noted friendships including one with a housemate formed around a shared interest in such work (Zoe notes that a lot of things on her schedule were internal psychological work). There wasn’t active prevention of talking to people outside the community but it’s common for it to happen anyway which is influenced by soft social pressure (e.g. looking down on people as “normies”). Zoe also is saying a lot of the pressure at Leverage was soft/nonexplicit, e.g. “being looked down on” for taking normal weekends.
I do remember Nate Soares who was executive director at the time telling me that “work-life balance is overrated/not really necessary” and if I’d been more sensitive to this I might have spent a lot more time on work. (I’m not even sure he’s “wrong” in that the way “normal people” do this has a lot of problems and integrating different domains of life can help sometimes, it still could have been taken as encouragement in the direction of working on weekends etc.)
This is what I did, it was just still a pretty small social group, and getting it and “quitting” were part of the same process.
I think it was other subgroups at Leverage, at least primarily. So “mental objects” would be a consideration in favor of making friends outside of the group. Unless one is worried about spreading mental objects to outsiders.
Most of this is answered in the post, e.g. I made it clear that the over-scheduling issue was not a problem for me at MIRI, which is an important difference. I was certainly spending a lot of time outside of work doing psychological work, and I noted friendships including one with a housemate formed around a shared interest in such work (Zoe notes that a lot of things on her schedule were internal psychological work). There wasn’t active prevention of talking to people outside the community but it’s common for it to happen anyway which is influenced by soft social pressure (e.g. looking down on people as “normies”). Zoe also is saying a lot of the pressure at Leverage was soft/nonexplicit, e.g. “being looked down on” for taking normal weekends.
I do remember Nate Soares who was executive director at the time telling me that “work-life balance is overrated/not really necessary” and if I’d been more sensitive to this I might have spent a lot more time on work. (I’m not even sure he’s “wrong” in that the way “normal people” do this has a lot of problems and integrating different domains of life can help sometimes, it still could have been taken as encouragement in the direction of working on weekends etc.)