I have concrete thoughts about the specific etiquette of such conversations (they’re not off the cuff; I’ve been thinking more-or-less continuously about this sort of thing for about eight years now).
However, I’m going to hold off for a bit because:
a) Like Anna, I was a part of the dynamics surrounding PhoenixFriend’s experience, and so I don’t want to seize the reins
b) I’ve also had a hard time coordinating with Anna on conversational norms and practices, both while at CFAR and recently
… so I sort of want to not-pretend-I-don’t-have-models-and-opinions-here (I do) but also do something like “wait several days and let other people propose things first” or “wait until directly asked, having made it clear that I have thoughts if people want them” or something.
I have concrete thoughts about the specific etiquette of such conversations (they’re not off the cuff; I’ve been thinking more-or-less continuously about this sort of thing for about eight years now).
However, I’m going to hold off for a bit because:
a) Like Anna, I was a part of the dynamics surrounding PhoenixFriend’s experience, and so I don’t want to seize the reins
b) I’ve also had a hard time coordinating with Anna on conversational norms and practices, both while at CFAR and recently
… so I sort of want to not-pretend-I-don’t-have-models-and-opinions-here (I do) but also do something like “wait several days and let other people propose things first” or “wait until directly asked, having made it clear that I have thoughts if people want them” or something.
link to the essay if/when you write it?