Vibes tend to be based on pattern matching, and are prone to bucket errors, so it’s important to watch out for that—particularly for people with trauma. For instance, I tend to automatically dislike anyone who has even one mannerism in common with either of my parents, and it takes me quite a while to identify exactly what it is that’s causing it. It usually isn’t their fault and they’re quite nice people, but the most annoying part is it doesn’t go away just because I know that. This drastically reduces the range of people I can feel comfortable around.
Vibes tend to be based on pattern matching, and are prone to bucket errors, so it’s important to watch out for that—particularly for people with trauma. For instance, I tend to automatically dislike anyone who has even one mannerism in common with either of my parents, and it takes me quite a while to identify exactly what it is that’s causing it. It usually isn’t their fault and they’re quite nice people, but the most annoying part is it doesn’t go away just because I know that. This drastically reduces the range of people I can feel comfortable around.