Engaging the “openness to experience” identity makes a lot of sense, and being open to potentially negative experiences is certainly a part of that. Have you tried doing things that are too aversive for you to be open towards them, or does this approach work in full generality?
I tried it for a couple of weeks and found that it’s most useful to me in social situations for communicating in “hazardous situations” e.g. talking to a stranger at a party, or holding an unpleasant conversation while still being empathetic.
I didn’t really try it for general hard-things-to-do since I have different mental tools for those.
Engaging the “openness to experience” identity makes a lot of sense, and being open to potentially negative experiences is certainly a part of that. Have you tried doing things that are too aversive for you to be open towards them, or does this approach work in full generality?
Hmm, I generalized from the one example of aversive phone calls. Let me try a few different examples and get back to you :)
I tried it for a couple of weeks and found that it’s most useful to me in social situations for communicating in “hazardous situations” e.g. talking to a stranger at a party, or holding an unpleasant conversation while still being empathetic.
I didn’t really try it for general hard-things-to-do since I have different mental tools for those.