Okay, that is definitely a very good point. I understand that few people are equipped to deal with the reality of suicide and I agree that having a discussion in a public forum is unsettling to a lot of people. I wouldn’t want to discuss things with people that they are disturbed by. I also understand the functionality of the disclaimer. I think what I wanted to point out is that people who are prepared to have a discussion need to do a bit of extra work to advertise that they are open for the discussion after the disclaimer if by default we want to assume the everyone else would not want to handle such a discussion (because we wouldn’t want to inadvertently disturb people). It would be great if those spaces existed.
If you weren’t okay that question might have lead to a discussion with your friend. That discussion might have helped you.
That was kind of my point about the weirdness of the whole thing. She didn’t ask because she was sincerely prepared to help in any meaningful way and I know her well enough to know that it’s something she couldn’t handle. It was her misleading way of issuing that same disclaimer. If she was talking to someone else, they might have misinterpreted her completely.
I guess my general point is … uhh, social things are misleading and weird.
I think what I wanted to point out is that people who are prepared to have a discussion need to do a bit of extra work to advertise that they are open for the discussion after the disclaimer
The default internet disclaimer is to tell the person to seek professional help. If you don’t have health insurance and can’t speak to get an appointment with a psychologists there are services such as the Suicide Prevention Lifeline that you can call in the US under 1-800-273-8255.
It was her misleading way of issuing that same disclaimer. If she was talking to someone else, they might have misinterpreted her completely.
If she generally doesn’t feel good about having a discussion but would be willing to have a discussion if a life is at stake than it makes sense to word the disclaimer in a way where someone who’s seriously thinking about suicide sees that she addresses the issue but someone who isn’t seriously thinking about it, thinks it’s a casual remark.
Okay, that is definitely a very good point. I understand that few people are equipped to deal with the reality of suicide and I agree that having a discussion in a public forum is unsettling to a lot of people. I wouldn’t want to discuss things with people that they are disturbed by. I also understand the functionality of the disclaimer. I think what I wanted to point out is that people who are prepared to have a discussion need to do a bit of extra work to advertise that they are open for the discussion after the disclaimer if by default we want to assume the everyone else would not want to handle such a discussion (because we wouldn’t want to inadvertently disturb people). It would be great if those spaces existed.
That was kind of my point about the weirdness of the whole thing. She didn’t ask because she was sincerely prepared to help in any meaningful way and I know her well enough to know that it’s something she couldn’t handle. It was her misleading way of issuing that same disclaimer. If she was talking to someone else, they might have misinterpreted her completely.
I guess my general point is … uhh, social things are misleading and weird.
The default internet disclaimer is to tell the person to seek professional help. If you don’t have health insurance and can’t speak to get an appointment with a psychologists there are services such as the Suicide Prevention Lifeline that you can call in the US under 1-800-273-8255.
If she generally doesn’t feel good about having a discussion but would be willing to have a discussion if a life is at stake than it makes sense to word the disclaimer in a way where someone who’s seriously thinking about suicide sees that she addresses the issue but someone who isn’t seriously thinking about it, thinks it’s a casual remark.