Hoo, boy, I think tabooing language that looks explicitly status-y is both a bad idea and won’t even get you what you want—anyone who really wants to do status stuff will just find more obfuscated language for doing it (including me).
I would probably like it if people went more in the NVC / Circling direction, away from claims about someone else and towards claims about themselves, e.g. “I feel frustrated” as opposed to “you’re being uncharitable,” but the way you get people to do this is not by tabooing or even by recommending tabooing.
Mostly I just want people to stop bringing models about the other person’s motives or intentions into conversations, and if tabooing words or phrases won’t accomplish that, and neither will explicitly enforcing a norm, then I’m fine not going that route. It will most likely involve simply arguing that people should adopt a practice similar to what you mentoned.
Hoo, boy, I think tabooing language that looks explicitly status-y is both a bad idea and won’t even get you what you want—anyone who really wants to do status stuff will just find more obfuscated language for doing it (including me).
I would probably like it if people went more in the NVC / Circling direction, away from claims about someone else and towards claims about themselves, e.g. “I feel frustrated” as opposed to “you’re being uncharitable,” but the way you get people to do this is not by tabooing or even by recommending tabooing.
Mostly I just want people to stop bringing models about the other person’s motives or intentions into conversations, and if tabooing words or phrases won’t accomplish that, and neither will explicitly enforcing a norm, then I’m fine not going that route. It will most likely involve simply arguing that people should adopt a practice similar to what you mentoned.