I’ll provisionally agree that it’s not all that useful to tell people what you think of their intent. This is why I linked it as a ‘bad thing’ for me to say: I considered it a generally combative post, where my intent was to sneer at the other person rather than alter their behavior for the better.
I tend to get around this in real world conversations with the use of questions rather than statements, but that requires rapid back and forth. Text forums are just about the worst place to use my most-developed methods of discussion...
I’ll provisionally agree that it’s not all that useful to tell people what you think of their intent. This is why I linked it as a ‘bad thing’ for me to say: I considered it a generally combative post, where my intent was to sneer at the other person rather than alter their behavior for the better.
I tend to get around this in real world conversations with the use of questions rather than statements, but that requires rapid back and forth. Text forums are just about the worst place to use my most-developed methods of discussion...