Excellent points! Yes, this is definitely a fun and interesting thing to engage with intellectually so long as both people feel like it’s being done in a non-judgmental or agendic way. Part of why I included the paragraphs about non-filtering being hard for some people is that I know there are some brains for which this genuinely doesn’t feel like it “should” be hostile or pressurey, since they don’t perceive it that way… but as in all things, that’s why your point about actually paying attention to what the other person says and taking it seriously is so important.
Excellent points! Yes, this is definitely a fun and interesting thing to engage with intellectually so long as both people feel like it’s being done in a non-judgmental or agendic way. Part of why I included the paragraphs about non-filtering being hard for some people is that I know there are some brains for which this genuinely doesn’t feel like it “should” be hostile or pressurey, since they don’t perceive it that way… but as in all things, that’s why your point about actually paying attention to what the other person says and taking it seriously is so important.