It seems like a big part of this story is mainly about people who have relatively strict preferences kind of aggressively defending their territory and boundaries, and how when you have multiple people like this working together on relatively difficult tasks (like managing the logistics of travel), it creates an engine for lots of potential friction.
Furthermore, when you add the status hierarchy of a typical organization, combined with the social norms that dictate how people’s preferences and rights ought to be respected (and implicit agreements being made about how people have chosen to sacrifice some of those rights for altruism’s sake), you add even more fuel to the aforementioned engine.
I think complaints such as these are probably okay to post, as long as everyone mentioned is afforded the right to update their behavior after enough time has passed to reflect and discuss these things (since actually negotiating what norms are appropriate here might end up being somewhat difficult).
Edit: I want to clarify that when there is a situation in which people have conflicting preferences and boundaries as I described, I do personally feel that those in leadership positions / higher status probably bear the responsibility of satisfying their subordinates’ preferences to their satisfaction, given that the higher status people are having their own higher, longer-term preferences satisfied with the help of their subordinates.
I don’t want to make it seem as though the ones bringing the complaints are as equally responsible for this situation as the ones being complained about.
It seems like a big part of this story is mainly about people who have relatively strict preferences kind of aggressively defending their territory and boundaries, and how when you have multiple people like this working together on relatively difficult tasks (like managing the logistics of travel), it creates an engine for lots of potential friction.
Furthermore, when you add the status hierarchy of a typical organization, combined with the social norms that dictate how people’s preferences and rights ought to be respected (and implicit agreements being made about how people have chosen to sacrifice some of those rights for altruism’s sake), you add even more fuel to the aforementioned engine.
I think complaints such as these are probably okay to post, as long as everyone mentioned is afforded the right to update their behavior after enough time has passed to reflect and discuss these things (since actually negotiating what norms are appropriate here might end up being somewhat difficult).
Edit: I want to clarify that when there is a situation in which people have conflicting preferences and boundaries as I described, I do personally feel that those in leadership positions / higher status probably bear the responsibility of satisfying their subordinates’ preferences to their satisfaction, given that the higher status people are having their own higher, longer-term preferences satisfied with the help of their subordinates.
I don’t want to make it seem as though the ones bringing the complaints are as equally responsible for this situation as the ones being complained about.