Possibly insurmountable problem is that loads of people want to think that they are Tell or at least Ask but in practice they are actually Guess and you have no way of filtering for this. In my experience people are extremely bad at knowing “how they are” relative to other people.
Perhaps the questions should give concrete scenarios. Something like
Ann needed to visit Chicago to go to a conference, and asked her friend Beth “Can I stay in your apartment Mon through Wed”. Beth answered, “no, it’s too much trouble to have a houseguest”. Was Beth unreasonable?
and
Your friend Ann send you an email saying, “I need to go to Chicago for a conference, can I stay with you in your apartment Mon through Wed?” Is this an inconsiderate request?
I suspect this works best if you avoid priming the test subjects on what they’re going to be tested on, otherwise I think they will expend effort to seem extra-reasonable contra their natural impulse.
But, yes, good idea, I was way too quick to call it an insurmountable problem.
Possibly insurmountable problem is that loads of people want to think that they are Tell or at least Ask but in practice they are actually Guess and you have no way of filtering for this. In my experience people are extremely bad at knowing “how they are” relative to other people.
Perhaps the questions should give concrete scenarios. Something like
and
I suspect this works best if you avoid priming the test subjects on what they’re going to be tested on, otherwise I think they will expend effort to seem extra-reasonable contra their natural impulse.
But, yes, good idea, I was way too quick to call it an insurmountable problem.