What should you say, as the groom? At weddings I’ve been at, usually the groom just says a bunch of “I do”s and some vows the fiancees maybe sat down and tweaked from examples they both liked. Then usually at the reception they’ll tell a story about how they met, what they love about the other person, and/or what they were thinking or feeling at important points in their relationship. Whoever gives that speech second thanks everyone for coming.
Typically it’s the officiant’s job to give the speech about what Love is and also about how marriage is hard, and the best man and woman’s job to tell the audience how well the couple fit each other while also making fun of them.
I think this is a pretty sensible way to do things. So I’ll give you three thoughts:
Option one, the lazy but totally fine way, is you ask your officiant to put the Ursula LeGuin quote (picked as the example because I really like it) in their short speech about what Love is and how marriage is hard.
Option two is to put it at the absolute start of your reception speech—“Ursula LeGuin said “[quote].” With [partner name,] I really feel [feelings that relate to quote]. When I first met her, my first thought was [humorous anecdote]. [rest of speech]”
Option three is to put it at the very end of your reception speech. “[speech, e.g. about a phone call with your mom during which you realized it was getting serious]. The next day I started shopping for a ring. Ursula LeGuin said “[quote].” [Partner name], I [way of pledging your love that uses pieces of the quote]. [Telling them you love them 0-2 more times and ways.]”
What should you say, as the groom? At weddings I’ve been at, usually the groom just says a bunch of “I do”s and some vows the fiancees maybe sat down and tweaked from examples they both liked. Then usually at the reception they’ll tell a story about how they met, what they love about the other person, and/or what they were thinking or feeling at important points in their relationship. Whoever gives that speech second thanks everyone for coming.
Typically it’s the officiant’s job to give the speech about what Love is and also about how marriage is hard, and the best man and woman’s job to tell the audience how well the couple fit each other while also making fun of them.
I think this is a pretty sensible way to do things. So I’ll give you three thoughts:
Option one, the lazy but totally fine way, is you ask your officiant to put the Ursula LeGuin quote (picked as the example because I really like it) in their short speech about what Love is and how marriage is hard.
Option two is to put it at the absolute start of your reception speech—“Ursula LeGuin said “[quote].” With [partner name,] I really feel [feelings that relate to quote]. When I first met her, my first thought was [humorous anecdote]. [rest of speech]”
Option three is to put it at the very end of your reception speech. “[speech, e.g. about a phone call with your mom during which you realized it was getting serious]. The next day I started shopping for a ring. Ursula LeGuin said “[quote].” [Partner name], I [way of pledging your love that uses pieces of the quote]. [Telling them you love them 0-2 more times and ways.]”