The “uhm” didn’t come across to me as rudeness; it came across as hesitance, which I interpreted as fear of coming across as rude. I admit that “sounds like you’ve never heard of X” is less polite than “have you heard of X?”, and the latter seems like a good substitute. “I invite you to look into that” doesn’t seem rude at all to me.
Warringal correctly interpreted what I was trying to convey and even summed up my afterthoughts on how I could’ve been more tactful, however, ‘uhm’ does assume negative connotations in online discussions—according to urban dictionary, but unbeknown to me at the time.
Politeness? profunda’s entire comment strikes me as quite rude and removing the beginning would at least be a step in the right direction.
The “uhm” didn’t come across to me as rudeness; it came across as hesitance, which I interpreted as fear of coming across as rude. I admit that “sounds like you’ve never heard of X” is less polite than “have you heard of X?”, and the latter seems like a good substitute. “I invite you to look into that” doesn’t seem rude at all to me.
I interpreted it as sarcastic. YMMV. It is of course very hard to make sure stuff like this isn’t misinterpreted on the internet.
Warringal correctly interpreted what I was trying to convey and even summed up my afterthoughts on how I could’ve been more tactful, however, ‘uhm’ does assume negative connotations in online discussions—according to urban dictionary, but unbeknown to me at the time.