If I talk, in the abstract, about how I imagine that it’s hard to organise bestiality orgies, and someone misinterprets that as a request for advice about organising bestiality orgies, that’s some pretty flammable speculation about my personal circumstances. I then have the option of either denying that I have interest in bestiality orgies, or ignoring them and leaving the speculation open.
Does that make sense? Please let it make sense. I want to leave this thread.
If I talk, in the abstract, about how I imagine that it’s hard to organise bestiality orgies, and someone misinterprets that as a request for advice about organising bestiality orgies, that’s some pretty flammable speculation about my personal circumstances.
No, it is not unless you’re actually organizing bestiality orgies.
If you actually do not, then it’s neither an invasion of privacy nor a discussion of your personal circumstances because your personal circumstance don’t happen to involve bestiality orgies.
It might be a simple misunderstanding or it might be a malicious attack, but it has nothing to do with your private life (again, unless it has in which case you probably shouldn’t have mentioned it in the first place).
And leaving this thread is a simple as stepping away from the keyboard.
For my own part, if someone goes around saying “Dave likes to polish goats in his garage”, it seems entirely reasonable for me to describe that as talking about my private life, regardless of whether or not I polish goats, whether or not I like polishing goats, or whether or not I have a garage.
To claim that they aren’t actually talking about my private life at all is in some technical sense true, I suppose, but the relevance of that technical sense to anything I might actually be expected to care about is so vanishingly small that I have trouble taking the claim seriously.
You’re conflating privacy and public speculation again. I didn’t do that.
If I say “I think Lumifer likes to ride polar bears in his free time”, then I am speculating about your personal circumstances. I just am. That’s what I’m doing. It’s an incontrovertible linguistic fact. I am putting forth the speculation that you like to ride polar bears in your free time, which is a circumstance that pertains to you. I am speculating about your personal circumstances. Whether the statement is true or not is irrelevant. I’m still doing it.
And I am actually going to go away now. Reply however you like, or not.
If I say “I think Lumifer likes to ride polar bears in his free time”, then I am speculating about your personal circumstances.
Not quite. The words which are missing here are “imaginary” and “real”.
I have real personal circumstances. If someone were to find out what they really are and start discussing them, I would be justified in claiming invasion of privacy and speculation about my personal circumstances.
However in this example, me riding polar bears is not real personal circumstances. What’s happening is that you *associate* me with some imaginary circumstances. Because they are imaginary they do not affect my actual privacy or my real personal circumstances. They are not MY personal circumstances.
In legal terms, publicly claiming that Lumifer likes to ride polar bears and participate in unmentionable activities with them might be defamation but it is NOT invasion of privacy.
To repeat, you want to prevent or control people talking about you and that doesn’t sound to me like a reasonable request.
If I talk, in the abstract, about how I imagine that it’s hard to organise bestiality orgies, and someone misinterprets that as a request for advice about organising bestiality orgies, that’s some pretty flammable speculation about my personal circumstances. I then have the option of either denying that I have interest in bestiality orgies, or ignoring them and leaving the speculation open.
Does that make sense? Please let it make sense. I want to leave this thread.
No, it is not unless you’re actually organizing bestiality orgies.
If you actually do not, then it’s neither an invasion of privacy nor a discussion of your personal circumstances because your personal circumstance don’t happen to involve bestiality orgies.
It might be a simple misunderstanding or it might be a malicious attack, but it has nothing to do with your private life (again, unless it has in which case you probably shouldn’t have mentioned it in the first place).
And leaving this thread is a simple as stepping away from the keyboard.
For my own part, if someone goes around saying “Dave likes to polish goats in his garage”, it seems entirely reasonable for me to describe that as talking about my private life, regardless of whether or not I polish goats, whether or not I like polishing goats, or whether or not I have a garage.
To claim that they aren’t actually talking about my private life at all is in some technical sense true, I suppose, but the relevance of that technical sense to anything I might actually be expected to care about is so vanishingly small that I have trouble taking the claim seriously.
You’re conflating privacy and public speculation again. I didn’t do that.
If I say “I think Lumifer likes to ride polar bears in his free time”, then I am speculating about your personal circumstances. I just am. That’s what I’m doing. It’s an incontrovertible linguistic fact. I am putting forth the speculation that you like to ride polar bears in your free time, which is a circumstance that pertains to you. I am speculating about your personal circumstances. Whether the statement is true or not is irrelevant. I’m still doing it.
And I am actually going to go away now. Reply however you like, or not.
Not quite. The words which are missing here are “imaginary” and “real”.
I have real personal circumstances. If someone were to find out what they really are and start discussing them, I would be justified in claiming invasion of privacy and speculation about my personal circumstances.
However in this example, me riding polar bears is not real personal circumstances. What’s happening is that you *associate* me with some imaginary circumstances. Because they are imaginary they do not affect my actual privacy or my real personal circumstances. They are not MY personal circumstances.
In legal terms, publicly claiming that Lumifer likes to ride polar bears and participate in unmentionable activities with them might be defamation but it is NOT invasion of privacy.
To repeat, you want to prevent or control people talking about you and that doesn’t sound to me like a reasonable request.
You are just using different definitions of privacy.
Recommended reading: Daniel Solove, “A Taxonomy of Privacy”.
http://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=667622