I’m not sure if “nobody is being creepy” is sufficient for a good vibe, but it’s probably necessary (where “being creepy” means basically “making more than one person uncomfortable in ways that could be avoided and that those people feel should be”). So how do you make sure nobody is being creepy? I think the logical options are: pre-filter people; actively filter people on the spot; and discourage creepiness on the spot. I suspect that there’s a place for all three of these tactics. I have nothing more to say about how to do tactics 1 and 3.
But on tactic 2: if you want active on-the-spot filtering to be viable, I’d suggest that you should get people to pre-commit to leaving without a fuss if certain conditions are met. For instance, you must leave if asked to leave by two people; or possibly, by two of the people pre-selected by the community for this job; or by 1 person selected for this job, who has gotten two anonymous complaints; or something like that. Obviously that wouldn’t solve all possible issues but it would at least allow strong, unanimous social pressure against on-the-spot special pleading, which is absolutely going to spoil the mood if it can’t be nipped in the bud.
I’m not sure if “nobody is being creepy” is sufficient for a good vibe, but it’s probably necessary (where “being creepy” means basically “making more than one person uncomfortable in ways that could be avoided and that those people feel should be”). So how do you make sure nobody is being creepy? I think the logical options are: pre-filter people; actively filter people on the spot; and discourage creepiness on the spot. I suspect that there’s a place for all three of these tactics. I have nothing more to say about how to do tactics 1 and 3.
But on tactic 2: if you want active on-the-spot filtering to be viable, I’d suggest that you should get people to pre-commit to leaving without a fuss if certain conditions are met. For instance, you must leave if asked to leave by two people; or possibly, by two of the people pre-selected by the community for this job; or by 1 person selected for this job, who has gotten two anonymous complaints; or something like that. Obviously that wouldn’t solve all possible issues but it would at least allow strong, unanimous social pressure against on-the-spot special pleading, which is absolutely going to spoil the mood if it can’t be nipped in the bud.