there are many cases in which I’d imagine people here would actively endorse experiencing an awkward emotional outburst about other issues.
For me, I would not endorse an outburst on ANY topic, when that topic is incredibly predictable, and the outburst interferes with a private event in a very unexpected way.
Feeling sorrow and pain may or may not be in your control, and may or may not be helpful. I have no judgement on that, and I feel my own sadness at your suffering. Putting yourself in a situation where you reasonably expect to face such pain, without warning or seeking accommodation with the hosts and bystanders, is not something I can support or sympathize with.
If you’d instead said “I was too overcome with grief to go out, knowing the millions of animals killed for this holiday”, I’d feel nothing but sympathy for your suffering. Since you willingly and predictably imposed suffering on others as part of your pain, I’m less sympathetic.
[meta: this is probably the limit of what I’m willing to discuss on LW on this topic. Please feel free to rebut or respond as you will, without expecting further comment from me. ]
For me, I would not endorse an outburst on ANY topic, when that topic is incredibly predictable, and the outburst interferes with a private event in a very unexpected way.
Feeling sorrow and pain may or may not be in your control, and may or may not be helpful. I have no judgement on that, and I feel my own sadness at your suffering. Putting yourself in a situation where you reasonably expect to face such pain, without warning or seeking accommodation with the hosts and bystanders, is not something I can support or sympathize with.
If you’d instead said “I was too overcome with grief to go out, knowing the millions of animals killed for this holiday”, I’d feel nothing but sympathy for your suffering. Since you willingly and predictably imposed suffering on others as part of your pain, I’m less sympathetic.
[meta: this is probably the limit of what I’m willing to discuss on LW on this topic. Please feel free to rebut or respond as you will, without expecting further comment from me. ]